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Finding Balance

Finding balance in the midst of juggling family, work, and personal responsibilities can be quite a challenge, especially when you also have to consider the impact of ADHD. So, what exactly does balance mean? It means effectively managing our time and energy to meet both personal and professional commitments. It can feel like a lot to handle. However, it is helpful to discover strategies to help support us so we don’t feel overwhelmed and overworked.

One trap we often fall into is the belief that we must be productive all the time to be considered worthy. We tend to compare ourselves to others and wonder how they manage to do it all while we struggle to keep up. However, comparing ourselves can lead us to work more and feel less accomplished overall. Finding the balance that works for us individually and promotes our overall well-being is crucial.

But fear not! With some strategies, self-awareness, a sprinkle of humor, and grace for ourselves, we can keep that balance … most of the time.

Here are a few valuable lessons I have learned on my personal journey to finding balance:

Simplify
Instead of attempting to do it all, focus on identifying opportunities to simplify your life. Explore methods that align with your brain and values. Start by getting clear on what you want for yourself and your life. Once you have clarity on what truly matters to you, you can create conditions that are both attainable and meaningful. It may take time and some trial and error, but the effort is worth it when you simplify.

Know Yourself and Your Strengths
Finding the balance we all strive for starts with self-awareness. It’s important to recognize and understand our unique processes and identify areas where we may need to approach things differently. Frequently, we put pressure on ourselves to conform to strategies that don’t align with our brains. However, tapping into our strengths to manage ADHD can be more beneficial and effective than trying to fit into a standardized mold. By focusing on understanding our unique strengths, we can better manage our ADHD symptoms.

Celebrate the Small Stuff
ADHD can make you feel like you’re not doing enough. Instead of getting stuck in what you have not done, try celebrating small wins along the way. Start with celebrating when you complete a task, meet a deadline, or even get started. Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. This boosts motivation, which helps you get the ball rolling.

Practice Patience and Compassion
Managing all the things with ADHD can be challenging, so be patient with yourself. Give yourself a little grace when you are having those off days. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it’s okay not to do it all because that’s exhausting. Give yourself credit for the progress you make, and be kind to yourself as you navigate the ups and downs.

Remember, our search for balance is an ongoing process that requires continuous self-reflection and adjustments along the way. Embrace your experiences, insights, and moments throughout this journey. Our unique perspectives and personal stories have the power to inspire others who are facing similar challenges. So, keep up that positive perspective, and move forward with grace and that sprinkle of humor because this is a journey, not a destination. 

If you are looking to learn a little more about how to start that journey and find balance, you may want to check out our upcoming group Masterful Living Fresh Starts.

Kelly Thorell

Kelly Thorell, PCAC

ADHD Coach and Life Coach, Executive Skills Coach