I remember listening to a money coach say something like… “the fastest way to something is often through another person.” She was referencing a desire to gain skills or knowledge or reach personal goals, but it’s stayed with me when I need to get something done, but digging my heels in before asking for help.
Body-doubling has been my #1 accommodation for my ADHD. Every single thing I struggle with can be made easier by asking for help.
This is a journey I see my clients go through, too. At first, they are often searching for a way to make their brains different, so they won’t need anyone else… but eventually they see that they are really captaining their own lives by asking for help in a way that actually works for them. This is empowering, confidence-building, and simply WORKS.
Here are a few items I asked for help with this week:
- Laundry: Asked my husband to move my basket down one floor, closer to the washer and dryer—helped me get it done.
- Exercise class: Asked a lady I work out with if she was going to the 8 am Saturday class because I had missed the Tuesday class. She said she’d meet me there, and we did it!
- Music: Asked a friend in my ensemble if she could body-double with me to work on memorization, and we both feel so much more prepared for our upcoming performance.
So, I ask you, what’s on your list that you’re stuck on? Who can you ask for help? If you’re bristling at this question, how much do you want to stay stuck? How would it feel to move forward, take the next step, or cross that thing off your list?
People are MUCH more willing to help than we give them credit for. This is your sign. Try it out.
Need support taking the next step? Schedule a Get-Acquainted Session with me or one of the other ADHD coaches at The Center for Living Well with ADHD, and discover strategies that work with your brain, not against it.
Riley Karbon, PCAC
ADHD Coach and Life Coach, Executive Skills Coach